Introverted Partner? 5 Things to Know

If your partner is an introvert, you’ve probably noticed that their idea of a good time is a bit different than yours. While you – as an extrovert – more often prefer a party, your partner would usually rather stay home for quiet evening as a couple. You are energized by social activities; your partner, on the other hand, is energized by time spent alone. To keep this difference from leading to misunderstandings, it’s a good idea to understand how introverts see the world. Here are five common characteristics of introverts: Enjoy being alone.Your partner’s periodic withdrawals don’t necessarily mean they love you any less or don’t enjoy people. Introverts also tend to be happy interacting with fewer people at a time. Want to be alone as a way to recharge. If you pay attention, you’ll notice that your partner comes back to you happier or more relaxed after having some alone time. Often prefer to spend one-on-one time with their partner than go out with others. Your partner may have a greater need for “just the two of us” time than you do. Your partner may also enjoy just being quietly together in the same space, as a way of including you in their re-energizing process. Appreciate low-key emotional support. When your partner is struggling with a situation, they are likely to feel helped by doing something that does not include other people. Consider just letting your partner know that you are there to listen or suggesting that the two of you spend time together doing something they enjoy. Enjoy gifts or surprises that take their introverted style into account. Unless your partner expressly says they want a particular social experience (e.g. milestone birthday party, going to the concert of their favorite band), consider giving them gifts that hold meaning for them and do not include crowds. Take the time to really try to understand your partner and consider their needs and preferences. When you honor the differences between you, it shows that you love your partner for who they are.



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