7 Doubtless Reasons Why You Just Can’t Fall In True Love (# 4 Is Common)

7 Doubtless Reasons Why You Just Can’t Fall In True Love (# 4 Is Common)

Relationship   23:42:00

FOLLOW US ON OUR BBM CHANNEL C002A9544 FOR LATEST GIST. You try your possible best to seek true love but for some reasons, you don’t want to end up hurting your lover and yourself, it is very true that searching for unconditional love in humans is not an easy task but you could be dating someone who truly loves you and you just can’t fall in true love with them, even if you really like them a lot and love dating them. The mind plays its own tricks on us, you will be surprise that as much as you are seeking true love, you might be the one holding yourself back from love.
Below are some of he reasons why you are still not in true love relationship
1. You think it’s too early to commit: because you’re still having so much fun you think you haven’t dated enough people to “settle”.
 2. You still have feelings for your ex: you’ve invested so much feelings in your past relationship and memories of the good times both of shared together still dominates your feelings.
 3.If you’ve always believed you’ve been right: you haven’t learnt any lessons or picked any flaws about yourself, you don’t self-reflect on your mistake from your past relationships and correct yourself.
 4.You don’t like feeling obligated: You just don’t want sign your independence away, and when you date someone, you feel like your freedom is being taken away from you.
5.Emotionally unavailable: you don’t date to share a life together with that person, most people you’ve dated just can’t understand you for the person you are. You don’t feel the need to connect with someone emotionally.
 6.True love is the last thing on your mind: there are other things in your life that are more important to you, your career, education, etc
 7. You’re a serial dater: once get past the infatuation stage with anyone you date, you starts to leave the door.

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6 Ways To Easily Approach A Girl For The First Time

6 Ways To Easily Approach A Girl For The First Time

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Walking up to a girl you’ve never spoken to before is like taking a dip in icy water. It makes you nervous. Your heart starts beating faster than you can count and your stomach inches closer to your tongue with each step you take. But as a guy, knowing how to approach a girl is one of the most important things to know in the dating world. Now I’m not going to make this any more difficult than you already assume it to be. Yes, talking to a girl who’s a stranger is not easy but then again, if you know just how to do it without appearing like you’re picking her up, you’ll realize just how easy the whole game can be. Forget pick up lines, forget bumping into her, and every other smart move you’ve heard. I’ll teach you to keep it simple, and help you win her heart even before you say ‘hello’.
Here’s the only tip that matters and you need to remember it for the rest of your dating life. Always let the girl know you want to talk to her before you even talk to her. Don’t make the mistake of approaching a girl out of the blue and asking her out. It almost always never works, unless you’re a smooth talker with the gift of gab.
If you’re a regular joe who wants to turn into a chick magnet, just follow these steps and you’ll win her attention before you finish your drink! You need to let the girl know you’re going to approach her. So warm her up to that idea to begin with by using these steps.

#1 Glance at her.

Look at her now and then just to let her know that you’re trying to catch her attention. Be sneaky and discreet, and always look away just as soon as she catches your eye. You’ll rouse her curiosity and that will force her to look at you now and then to see if you’re still watching her.

#2 The eye contact.

Each time she looks at you, look at her and immediately look away sheepishly. Continue to look at her now and then, and once in a while, lock your gaze at her for a small fraction of a second and look away again. By doing this, you’re already building the sexual attraction but if she doesn’t reciprocate here, she’s probably not interested in you.

#3 Appear awkward.

If you’re with your friends, look at her now and then, but appear like you’re distracted and not able to focus on the conversation you’re having with your friends. By doing that, you’re making her see that she’s on your mind and you’re too distracted to focus on your friends. That’s subtle flattery!

#4 Smile at her.

Exchange eye contact now and then, one or two times every minute and no more than that, and when you feel pretty courageous, flash a tiny smile from the corner of your lip for a second, and let her notice your smile. Don’t give her a big grin though, a malicious big grin at this stage will scare any girl away.

These moves are all about building the connection and letting her know you’re interested in her. And at the same time, it’ll also help you understand if she too is really interested in you. If she responds to your gestures similarly, it’s a sign that she’s interested in talking to you too. But if she starts ignoring you at any point here, she’s probably not interested in you and you need to try your luck somewhere else.
Now that you’ve built the attraction and the chemistry, all you need to do is walk up to her and say something. Use these tips to approach her and start the right conversation.

#5 Waiting for the moment.

Sometimes, all you need to do is wait for the girl to give you a chance to talk to her. If she’s really interested in you and wants to talk to you, she’d create enough opportunities for you to walk up to her. She could do this by walking to the ladies room alone, stepping away from her friends by answering a phone call, or even by just smiling at you and leaving the place.
It’s always easier to talk to a girl when she’s by herself. There are no distractions from her friends or awkward moments because she’s already expecting you to approach her

#6 Picking her up from afar.

Gesticulate. Use the right gestures to get her attention. This is tricky, but as long as you get the message across, it’ll still work as long as you do it confidently.
Look straight at her and smile. Jerk your neck sideways just a little bit after you lock your eyes with her, and using your eyes, point her to the bar counter or some exit. Even if she doesn’t get it, you can walk up to the place you were pointing at by yourself, and she’ll know what you mean.
Not all girls may appreciate you gesticulating at her and asking her to walk up to you, but if you’ve built the chemistry from afar, she’d be more than happy to get away from her friends and give you a chance to talk to her.
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Ladies:7 Reasons Why That Guy Hasn’t Asked You Out Yet

Ladies:7 Reasons Why That Guy Hasn’t Asked You Out Yet

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 He gives you all the right vibes but is yet to do anything about your feelings for each other. There are situations where you have chemistry with a guy and you know the feeling is mutual but you are yet to make your relationship status official because he hasn’t agreed that you are both dating. He gives you all the right vibes but is yet to do anything about your feelings for each other. This attitude could be quite frustrating and there might be reasons he hasn’t asked you out yet. Corina Dondas of All Women Stalk lists a few of these reasons why he may not have made a move:
#1. He is intimidated by you:One of the most important reasons why a guy you like may be holding himself back and not asking you out is because he is intimidated by you. Do you think you are a warm and friendly person? If not, then try to be a bit more approachable. Just try to give that #guy enough opportunities to strike a conversation with you so he can ask you out.

#2. He is taken: Another reason why he hasn’t asked you out yet is because he already has a #girlfriend but you just don’t know anything about her. Yes, but why is he staring and flirting with you? Well, maybe he just likes the #attention, maybe he is just looking for a fling thing or maybe he really is indecisive and he doesn’t know how he feels about you.

#3. He is a shy baby: Shy guys find it extremely difficult to ask girls out on dates since they fear rejection so much that they have a hard #time finding the courage to come and talk to the girl they like. They may show #signs of liking you from afar but if you want them to ask you out, then give them the reassurance they need to come talk to you.
#4. He’s hoping you’ll make a move first: The #guy you like might be a bit shy, introverted or he doesn’t know how you feel about him and that’s why he expects you to make the first move. If you know that he likes you back, then you could take that extra step and ask him out on a date.
#5. He’s afraid of ruining your friendship: If you and the #guy you like are good friends, then this may be one of the reasons why he hasn’t asked you out yet. Maybe he is afraid that if you two get romantically involved and it doesn’t work out, he may lose you as a friends and he clearly doesn’t want that to happen.
#6. He just got out of a serious relationship: A guy who just got out of a serious relationship may still be recovering, so he needs time to move on and think about a new #relationship. Just give him #time to heal and show him what a great catch you are. He will ask you out when he feels ready to take #things to the next level.
#7. He hasn’t made up his mind about you yet: Even if it may hurt a little, you should know that another good reason why he hasn’t asked you out yet is the fact that he doesn’t know how he feels about you. He knows you like him but he runs hot and then cold. Maybe he just isn’t into you and if that’s the case, try to move on and find someone who loves and accepts you just the way you are.

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7 Relationship Secrets That Work

7 Relationship Secrets That Work

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FOLLOW US ON OUR BBM CHANNEL C002A9544 FOR LATEST GIST. We all wish we knew the secrets behind strong, lasting relationships. Whether we’re hurting after a break up or fuming over an argument, we often struggle to figure out what’s truly missing in our romantic lives. That’s the beauty of it though: The insights are usually hidden in the struggle. If this resonates with you, take a step back, refocus, and check out these 7 relationship secrets that actually work.

1. You Both Maintain Your Own Lives

Problems often occur in relationships when one or both partners forget about their own lives in order to fit into each other’s. As a matter of fact, healthy relationships develop when couples maintain their individuality and give each other plenty of personal space.

In a relationship, it’s important to retain all of your own hobbies, interests, friends, and passions. It’s equally as crucial to support your partner on their own path. This way, you learn and grow together while nurturing each other’s unique qualities.

2. You Communicate Transparently

Miscommunication is a key factor in troubled relationships, romantic or otherwise. Often, we say what we think people want to hear, or are afraid of telling the truth. However, there’s just no point in hiding your inner self when you are in a relationship.

Imagine going to bed with your makeup on so that your new partner doesn’t see your sleepy face in the morning. Eventually, they will… and they’ll likely love you for it. Honest communication means being brave enough to say exactly what you feel. It also means accepting your partner’s honesty, so that the lines of communication remain transparent.

3. You Inspire Each Other to Be Better

When you first met someone and fell in love with them, chances are they filled you with inspiration. This mutual feeling is motivating, and you should use it to propel each other towards your goals. Things tend to go wrong when jealousy forces you to try to control or hold each other back.

In relationships that work, the desire to motivate each other increases as time goes on, even in the midst of difficult circumstances. You greet each new challenge together, with the intention of helping each other become better in all things.

4. You Appreciate the Little Things About Each Other

Having future goals is fantastic, but life’s not all about achievement. We tend to waste a lot of energy wishing we’d hit certain milestones already, to the detriment of things going on right in front of our noses. How many of your arguments start with this phrase: “But when are we going too… buy a house, have a baby, get married, make a lot of money?” The list goes on.

In relationships that work, the little things take center stage. The walks on the beach, the cheeky smiles, the rainy weekends in bed, the special looks reserved for each other. You don’t need to define the relationship by fitting it neatly into a socially-constructed box. Those big goals pale in comparison to appreciating the beauty of the present moment together.

5. You Embrace Each Other’s Flaws

While many of us love to take on projects, you’re heading towards the danger zone if that project is your partner. By embracing each other’s flaws, we can still help our partner grow without falling into the dreadful trap of thinking that we’ll love them if only they’d change.

It’s inevitable that everyone will change. It’s human nature as we progress through life. But even when we change for the better, a new challenge is often awaiting us. This results in more growth and, yes, you guessed it, more flaws. If you can’t love the one you’re with right now because you don’t accept them as they are, chances are you never will.

6. You Remain Curious About Each Other

Isn’t it true that no matter what we do, eventually we get used to doing it? This leads us towards fostering new desires, so that life always remains fresh and fulfilling. Relationships are no different. Once the excitement wears off, it’s easy to look at each other in the dull light of boredom… and want something new.

You can give each other something new by remaining curious. Neither partner is ever static, as we’re all constantly changing. This ensures we never know absolutely everything about another person. Trying new things together, going on adventures, and stirring up the routine fans the flames of curiosity.

7. You Love to Be Spontaneous Together

And that brings us to the most important secret: Spontaneity. If you always do the same thing on Sunday, switch the television on to eat dinner each night, and expect each other to slot in with a perfect schedule, you effectively eradicate it from your relationship.

When this happens, the stagnant nature of routine seeps into your partnership and buries it under a pile of dirty laundry. Healthy relationships combine the everyday aspects of life with a big dose of spontaneous fun – and both partners relish in keeping it alive.

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5 Things Women Want Men to Know

5 Things Women Want Men to Know

Relationship   18:08:00

I have always been one of those women with a lot of guy friends; I enjoy the male viewpoint and YES, men can be “easier” than women (more on this in a minute*). I pride myself on my ability to be a good sounding board for ALL of my friends; this means that I have counselled relationships, break-ups, reconciliations and divorce from both perspectives.

Listening to my guy friends talk about women especially, though, I am always amazed by some of the basic misconceptions they harbor about the “fairer sex.” Listening to my girlfriends talk about their relationships, I tend to hear the same complaints over and over. So I thought I might be able to put together a general list with the intention of helping us ALL get along a little better:

1) Keep it simple! There is a popular old joke that has been emailed to you and everyone else on the planet about 4 billion times which consists of two lists —“How to make a woman happy“ and “How to make man happy.” The woman’s list is first and it is exhaustive; romantic dinners, flowers, foot rubs, jewelry etc. etc. etc. The man’s list? “Show up naked. Bring beer.”

This makes us laugh mainly because the man’s list feels so spot on (*although I know more than a few HIGH MAINTENANCE MEN), but the woman’s list is simply whimsy. Let me correct it for once and for all: if you want to make a woman happy, SHOW UP and LISTEN. Seriously, if you make an effort to do just these two things consistently, you are going to have a good relationship. I mean, OBVIOUSLY flowers are nice too, but they can’t ever take the place of RESPECTFUL ATTENTION.

2) Yes, the children are more “important” than you. Whenever I see one of those “click bait” articles with a title like “Why my husband comes before my children“ it takes all of my self-control not to jump on and post the following comment: “Either you are fibbing or you are an irresponsible parent.” THE KIDS COME FIRST. The kids are the priority. This is not due to lack of love, respect or admiration for a worthy partner. This is because a worthy partner should be a grown-ass man who can take care of himself and children are CHILDREN.

Every good parent, Mom or Dad, understands that the quality of attention these tiny and growing creatures require is intense and draining. And also: it’s what we signed up for! It’s swell that you want to keep the romance alive in your partnership, but if the two of you decided to bring little humans into the world, your main concern must always be providing for them, protecting them, guiding them and PRIORITIZING them. If that doesn’t work for you? Don’t have kids.

3) Women like sex too! (unless you turn it into a chore) Whenever I hear the old line about how it’s “easier” for women to be monogamous because they produce one egg to a man’s billion sperm... I’m sorry, damn, that is HILARIOUS! Here is what I know: people of BOTH sexes can have a low or high sex drive. It is pretty imperative that you find a partner who matches you in this way. Once the need for frequency of sex is settled: EVERYBODY LIKES IT!!!

Especially at the beginning of a relationship, when everything is all SHAM-WOW! But yes, in long term relationships (particularly if you mutually decided to have a family), sex gets put on the back burner for many good reasons. Like exhaustion, for example. The biggest complaint I hear from women is that their partners seem to feel that they are OBLIGATED to have sex with them. Ooooh, who doesn’t LOVE a nice obligation??? Obligations are HOT!

NOT. We read about the importance of “maintenance sex,” but here is a newsflash: once you start treating your partner’s body like a piece of property, it’s hard to come back from that. Most nice women have submitted to a (whiny) request for sexual gratification at some point in their lives (and maybe a LOT of them), but always out of guilt. Women like consensual sex with an adult that they are attracted to; we do not like sex with a whiny/pouty/belligerent baby. This is critical information to understand.

4) The “man cave” should be unisex. Way back in the 1990s author John Gray popularized the notion that women need to process emotions through sharing and communication, while men need to retreat to a “cave”. While I do think it is healthy and normal for people to need space from each other even in a committed relationship, I have to say that a) I have listened to every one of my guy friends “talk out” emotional processing and b) all of my female friends would kill for a “cave” of their own. NO BOYS (kids, dogs etc.) ALLOWED!

In fact, many of us have them; be it an artist’s studio, a crafting room, a home office or even just a yoga class. WE NEED OUR DOWN TIME TOO and would be MORE than happy to give you yours as long as you SHOW UP when needed and LISTEN to what we tell you, okay?

5) Sincere flattery works! One last thing: “flattery will get you everywhere” is not just an expression. It is the honest truth, as long as your flattery is the honest truth. And while a well-placed “nice ass” can be charming, an “I notice all you do for me and our family and I appreciate it” is SOLID GOLD. We all enjoy recognition for our efforts; for example, most men I know seem to think remembering to put the toilet seat down is worthy of a ticker-tape parade!!! Just notice her and be nice.

I am not trying to speak for all women, but I think a really healthy ratio of them would agree with what I’ve said here. There is an old line about those burlesque signs that read: “GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS!” The joke says that this is repeated because men need to be told everything 3 times before it registers. So in case this is true, I will remind you for a third time to SHOW UP and LISTEN.

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8 Big Relationship Dos and Don’ts

8 Big Relationship Dos and Don’ts

Relationship   18:02:00

As a psychologist and relationship counselor for over 25 years, I speak from experience when I say there’s more to the art of love than we can imagine: people are complex, riddled with flaws and deep desires, desperately seeking to be understood. Yet human beings also hold an incredible capacity to give love if they’re shown the right kind of love. Our goal in a relationship should be to help our partner release this abundance of love to experience a fulfilling relationship.

What I see happening more often, however, is that people continue to make the same mistakes in their relationships and expect different results. What’s worse is that their insecurities and negative tendencies lead them to act in ways that destroy what could be a perfectly healthy relationship. Different partners draw out of us different emotions — some we didn’t even know we had — and sustaining a relationship becomes tedious from both ends. But we must ensure that at least we’re doing our part. So how do we navigate it through it all and improve the quality of our love? Practice these 8 relationship dos and don’ts to fortify your romance with harmony, stability, and joy:

Do develop emotional intimacy: Many couples live together physically but live apart emotionally. Emotional intimacy is knowing what your partner needs before they even get a chance to ask. It is picking up on their feelings as if they were your own. Develop a sense of emotional intimacy by being honest with your partner and sensitive to their needs.  

Do plan a life together: Our plans may not always work out, but envisioning a future with our partner inspires us to take the right steps towards manifesting our long-term goals. Talk about the years ahead and form a strategy to achieve the things you want together: a home, a family, investments, etc.

Do bring them comfort: Your partner wants to come home to love, not to a headache. Make your home a place that always reels your partner back because they feel safe, stable, and nurtured. Don’t start talking about your problems as soon as your partner walks through the door. The bills, the job, the argument you just had this morning—these things can wait until the atmosphere is calm and appropriate for such a conversation.
  
Do act in the right time: Time can be your biggest enemy or your best friend. At any given moment, time is either on your side or against you. The wisdom is to recognize when you should act versus when you should wait. If you listen to your inner voice, you can decipher the different tides of time. Don’t obligate your partner to do things in a certain amount of time, like pushing them to get married within a year. This is your notion of time, not theirs. Do take the big step forward when you’re both in complete agreement, even if it takes a bit longer than you’d like.
  
Don’t play on their weaknesses:
Every day, you have the choice to play on your partner’s weaknesses or to reiterate their strengths. If you constantly bring up what they’re doing wrong, they’ll never feel motivated to do anything right. No relationship can improve under such negative energy. There are gentle ways to get your partner to understand what they should be doing differently, and constantly scolding them is not one of these methods.
  
Don’t get even: No matter what your partner has done or however they’ve wronged you in the past, don’t retaliate or act in bad faith. Keep your personal karma clean by always treating the other person the way you’d like to be treated, regardless of the way they behave towards you. This is your duty to yourself and not to anyone else. Remember: the way others treat you is their karma but the way you respond is your karma.

Don’t assume or blow things out of proportion: Before you throw a tantrum, sit and reflect logically: Is it really as bad as I assume? Speak to your partner openly about what’s bothering you instead of blowing up on them. Many times we amplify the severity of a situation out of our fears and insecurities, when in reality it’s not what we think at all. Before assuming things that might be false, ask yourself if it’s really worth jeopardizing the relationship.

Don’t act out of desperation: Think through your decisions a thousand times before you act on them. Acting on desperation will only yield more desperation. If you’re desperate to get your partner to change, don’t threaten to break up with them when in reality it’s the last thing you want to do. If they agree to break up, you’ll feel even worse. Let your feelings to settle down before approaching them with any issue. Always try to see the logic behind escalated emotions. Love relationships are undoubtedly difficult to maintain if we don’t consider the steps to uphold a positive dynamic. Take up these 8 tips to eliminate relationship problems and strengthen the loving bond with your partner.   Love this article? Share it with your friends on Facebook And Follow Us on Twitter Follow @lifestylegist